Unbiased love? November 19, 2008
Posted by MsLady in Attraction, Foreign, Friendship.Tags: Add new tag, Attraction, interracial dating
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Having trouble finding a man? Have you broadened your search, racially?
Interracial dating and marriage is on the rise – a practice banned in some areas of the U.S. pre-1967. The number of black-white marriages increased from about 65,000 in 1970 to about 422,000 in 2005, according to the U.S. Census Bureau. In some communities, it’s still a touchy subject.
Have doubts? What is your initial reaction to these pics?
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It was hard for me in my younger years to hear some black men, especially, talk about why they dated white girls. Their reasons were very wrong and stereotypical (dating for cash, their lack of attitude compared with black girls, etc.)
I respect those couples who put melanin aside in a country obsessed with it and make a life together based on their love. In some places, it’s easier than others (places where diversity in a number of ways has already been more embraced). Personally, I’ve dated outside of my race a few times. But there was one experience where I was the token black girl; and it felt weird and wrong. It was based on his fascination, not in like or respect for me. But that was one guy. One experience.
Anyone care to share their experience dating across the so-called color line?
Love is blind October 30, 2008
Posted by icediva in Attraction, Foreign, Men, Relationship, Women.Tags: Add new tag, Attraction, love, love life, marriage, wedding
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- Manuel Uribe
For his birthday Manuel Uribe of Mexico wanted nothing more than to marry girlfriend Claudia Solis. They had dated for four years. Claudia was the widow of a former friend.
Claudia Solis
During their time together, Claudia and Manuel fell in love. It’s the classic boy meets girl story.
Sorta.
Manuel weighs well over 500 pounds. He once weighed over 1,200 pounds and is in the Guinness World Record book for the world’s fattest man. He can’t stand on his own two feet. On his wedding day, he was fork lifted sitting in his bed onto the bed of truck and taken to his ceremony.
But despite what some would say are limitations to a romantic life, Claudia loves him. Even helped him lose 500 pounds.
If that isn’t love, I don’t know what is.
Manuel looks so happy in the picture above. And so does she. It seems to be that love is blind to not only age, race, and socioeconomics but size as well.
I know tons of women (me included) that wouldn’t have even thought of a man like Manuel in that way. Maybe he’s a good man. Maybe he’ll be a good husband. Who knows.
My question is something else entirely. What kind of woman is Claudia Solis? As little girls, we fantasized about the dream man — what he looks like, how he is, etc. In those dreams, however, I don’t recall someone saying , ‘I’m going to marry the fattest man in the world’. It’s ALWAYS the opposite. ‘He’ll be fine.’ ‘He’ll be cute.’ But when does “fine” and “cute” become not enough. When does substance become part of the chatter?
For Claudia it was at age 38, at the bedside of the fattest man in the world who she is helping to save.
We could say Claudia has a kind heart and is blind to physical attributes, opting for the soul of a person. We could say that Claudia is a good person. A savior. Maybe a martyr. Some would say a sacrificial lamb.
But I’d like to think of it in a way all romantics do — Manuel and Claudia fell in love, they got married, and they lived happily ever after.
