Single, No Chaser.

Single shouldn’t mean foolish December 22, 2008

Looking over this past year, I have to say I’m fortunate in terms of my growing relationship with Montez. I met a good guy. I know so many women who are wishing and searching to experience what I’m enjoying – a good relationship.
And it’s made me look back at the ridiculousness I was accepting last year in order to date every now and then when my single status was a major stumbling block, or so I thought.
And I’m looking at friends now who accept men who hang up on them, who stand them up on dates, who disrespect them, who accept my girls paying their bills all because my girls don’t want to be lonely.
I was there.
But I stepped out of that game, much of my self-worth intact, fortunately.
That’s when I figured out how to be single and healthy. When men become a complement not your sustenance.
Even now, Montez adds to me. He takes nothing away.
And so, as we approach celebrations of love, reflection and hope, I wish for all my single sisters to love themselves more than the foolishness and see if you don’t find yourself in a better position with or without that man.