Question of the day: What do you do when you see your ex? June 5, 2009
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Okay so you just broke up or you haven’t seen him for ages but there is something about your ex that envokes a feeling or a reaction. It maybe a pleasant reaction about puppy love or a flash memory of feeling not so sexy.
Now imagine if you saw him buying an engagement ring…for someone else.
Thats today’s question of day. Click and answer away!
Too successful for love? May 13, 2009
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Once upon a time I had this crush on a boy. Man, did I like him. Handsome. Funny but in a corky way, not in the stand-up comedian way.
I tried to hang out with him, get to know him a little bit. But no fish on the hook. So I asked Guy Pal D one day:
“Hey, what gives?”
Guy Pal D grins as he laid on my couch during our weekly movie sessions.
“You’re intimidating.”
“Intimidating?”
“Yes, intimidating. Even I’m afraid of you.”
Granted that once I’m upset, the angry black woman in me is unattractive but that doesn’t happen often enough. At my core, I’m mildly shy (believe it) even though I’m out-going. Intimidating? What does that mean.
And then the guy I had a crush on started dating someone else. Someone not intimidating. She was girlier the color pink, worked as a waitress and didn’t have any other aspirations, didn’t really talk (unless she was talking about people behind their backs) and never questioned anyone or anything.
That’s when I realized that all my success, though moderate, is intimidating to men.
Now, I’m not saying I’m a millionaire or that I own patents to miracle inventions but I work and make my own money. I don’t rely on anyone other than myself.
Those virtues have become my downfall and have kept me single for most of my 31 years of life.
Tracy Cox, relationship expert at Ivillage.com. says that people’s intimidation is their problem not yours.
I disagree. It is our problem as well as theirs. If we are conditioned to act one way at work, which is were we spend more of our time, then how do we act during our free time. Are we harsh and business like? Are we assertive and direct? Are these the attributes that attract the type of men we want to be with?
Let’s face it. In corporate America, there is no crying, not sweetness or niceness allowed. Most especially if you work as a journalist. There is only enough room for an instinctual kill and that does not a good date make.
I don’t know about anyone else but during my free time, I’m the girl. I want to be the girl. I want to be girlier than the color pink. I want to wear pretty dresses and look nice and be taken out on an enchanted evening.
I know that’s not too much to ask for but if I keep intimidating men, all I’ll be able to ask for is a sturdy handshake while he eyes the delicate flower in the corner.
SNC Question of the day:What is the most special thing you’ve done for your girl or guy? April 21, 2009
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Part of being a good girlfriend is doing things for him…even when you don’t want to. Ditto for the guys. So what was it that you did or didn’t do for your girl or guy? Was it something special?
Don’t be shy. Place your answer on the comment section.
The Princess and the Saddle December 8, 2008
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I don’t typically feel all that girly, much less princess-y. There are a few exceptions, however, and this weekend served to remind me of one.
So, my mother guilted me into taking horseback riding lessons with her.
Wintec English Saddle
I haven’t ridden a horse in thirteen years, and I really wasn’t sure that I wanted to start again. However, because I knew Mom would be thrilled, and because I felt bad for her, I allowed myself to be talked into it.
The lesson went well. I couldn’t find my riding helmet (I mean, after all, it has been thirteen years) so I used a bike helmet instead. Helmets are definitely one area where I don’t even feel like a girl – I wear size 7 5/8, which is about as big as you can get. It’s almost impossible to find hats, much less helmets, that big. After about an hour’s worth of internet shopping, I have only found one helmet that size. It’s definitely not girly or dainty or feminine in any way, shape or form (colors gray, black, navy, and hunter green). Sigh.
I do have my old saddle, still, my much-beloved Wintec 2000 All-Purpose. I opted not to use it, however, and that was a terrible mistake that I’m still paying for. And why I feel somewhat, stupidly, like a princess now.
So I rode for an hour in the saddle supplied, a typical English saddle (also All-Purpose). We only walked and trotted – nothing very difficult. I have bruises on my upper thighs from the stirrup-buckles and bruises on my calves from the girth. I don’t get these bruises when using my Wintec, because the
stirrups are held on differently and don’t have buckles, and the saddle is designed so the girth is buckled lower down.
I’ve never met another person who bruises so easily from riding. I bruise easily anyhow – I have tender skin, and have all sorts of mystery bruises that even I don’t know the origins of. I’m not saying that I’d bruise if someone put a pea under my mattress, but I do certainly sympathize with that poor princess.
