Question of the day: What do you do when you see your ex? June 5, 2009
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Okay so you just broke up or you haven’t seen him for ages but there is something about your ex that envokes a feeling or a reaction. It maybe a pleasant reaction about puppy love or a flash memory of feeling not so sexy.
Now imagine if you saw him buying an engagement ring…for someone else.
Thats today’s question of day. Click and answer away!
Bad Boys and Beat Downs… Things Get Nasty on Daisy of Love. May 26, 2009
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By KatyByrd
This week was hilarious!
First Cage decides that he is going to take his frustrations out on poor little Chi Chi. WTF? If you want to demonstrate the length and girth of your manliness I could think of about a million different ways. Picking a fight with a guy who is probably half your size is REALLY not the way to go. Then Big Rig does the sweetest thing and brings Daisy coffee in bed after she had her heart stomped on by that f*tard London last episode. If I recall correctly Big Rig was the guy who got almost naked on stage. Actually he was naked except for his guitar. Big Rig looks promising this week. I mean come on! How sweet was that! I wonder what else he does in the morning for brownie points.
Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm…
THEN Fox gets the MVP award for doing nothing. I so wanted to jump through my TV, grab Fox by his nuts, and shake the stupid out of him. For this award he gets a date with Daisy. Where he starts to ramble complete nonsense about why he and Daisy are perfect for each other. At least I think. All he did was talk to the camera. He did not look at her throughout his whole ramble session. G.R.O.S.S. to the infinite power!
After all of the drama of the photo shoot…just when you think that the guys that lost get a little down time…the impossible/completely stages happens. A skunk finds its way into the house. I actually liked that this happened. It gave us an opportunity to separate the men from the boys. 12 Pack got sprayed in the face and got all freaked out. He and Chi Chi poured tomato sauce on him and then he started to vomit. What a pussy. Actually a few of the guys started to gag and vomit. The smell is horrible. Who, you might ask, finally handled the little critter? That’s right, Big Rig. Step aside boys let that hot little southern man handle the situation.
The winners of the challenge got a date at the local skate park. Flex was the truly outgoing one. I have to give him credit he got onto the largest ramp and just went for it. He had no idea what he was doing but he made it go right! Got to love the can do attitude. Sinister tried to skate a little but was only willing to try so hard. 6 Gauge (named for the 6 gauge Prince Albert piercing he has) refused to get on a board sitting the fact that he was “larger” than the other guys and more mature. Course after the date he pulls out his junk in the limo to show Daisy his piercing. Riiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight. I wonder if it has a bell on it.
Poor Cage, in the end he lets his emotions and insecurities get the best of him. Cage gets hammered and accidently burns Flex with a metal laurel Foxx had worn on his date. Well. See what had happened was Cage smarted off to 6 Gauge and got up to get into a fight. Flex decides to make this an opportunity to get back at Cage for burning him by grabbing him from behind and punching him. This doesn’t sit well with Cage, who already has anger issues, and Cage decides to leave before he hurts anyone. Smart choice and one we all knew was going to have to happen. Guys leaving before they get eliminated are a disturbing trend though.
On the brighter side, next week involves a boxing ring. Evidently Chi Chi and Sinister go at it and Sinister gets whooped! JUICY! I don’t think that their friendship will last very long. Till next week!!
XOXO
Katy Byrd
Too successful for love? May 13, 2009
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Once upon a time I had this crush on a boy. Man, did I like him. Handsome. Funny but in a corky way, not in the stand-up comedian way.
I tried to hang out with him, get to know him a little bit. But no fish on the hook. So I asked Guy Pal D one day:
“Hey, what gives?”
Guy Pal D grins as he laid on my couch during our weekly movie sessions.
“You’re intimidating.”
“Intimidating?”
“Yes, intimidating. Even I’m afraid of you.”
Granted that once I’m upset, the angry black woman in me is unattractive but that doesn’t happen often enough. At my core, I’m mildly shy (believe it) even though I’m out-going. Intimidating? What does that mean.
And then the guy I had a crush on started dating someone else. Someone not intimidating. She was girlier the color pink, worked as a waitress and didn’t have any other aspirations, didn’t really talk (unless she was talking about people behind their backs) and never questioned anyone or anything.
That’s when I realized that all my success, though moderate, is intimidating to men.
Now, I’m not saying I’m a millionaire or that I own patents to miracle inventions but I work and make my own money. I don’t rely on anyone other than myself.
Those virtues have become my downfall and have kept me single for most of my 31 years of life.
Tracy Cox, relationship expert at Ivillage.com. says that people’s intimidation is their problem not yours.
I disagree. It is our problem as well as theirs. If we are conditioned to act one way at work, which is were we spend more of our time, then how do we act during our free time. Are we harsh and business like? Are we assertive and direct? Are these the attributes that attract the type of men we want to be with?
Let’s face it. In corporate America, there is no crying, not sweetness or niceness allowed. Most especially if you work as a journalist. There is only enough room for an instinctual kill and that does not a good date make.
I don’t know about anyone else but during my free time, I’m the girl. I want to be the girl. I want to be girlier than the color pink. I want to wear pretty dresses and look nice and be taken out on an enchanted evening.
I know that’s not too much to ask for but if I keep intimidating men, all I’ll be able to ask for is a sturdy handshake while he eyes the delicate flower in the corner.
Ms. Lady says farewell May 8, 2009
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I’ve been with the gang-banger, the NBA hopeful and an Island Breeze who all broke my heart. I thought I was too broken to find true love. I was jaded. A Bag Lady, who sang all the sad love songs Toni Braxton could ever croon.
But, Mr. Fresh aka Montez found me and loved me through it all. And now, I can proudly say, I’m no longer single.
I’m living proof that love will find you!
But it has to be in love’s time.
See, I could never have appreciated a Montez years ago when I wanted a brotha who was a little gritty on the edges, but who could still blend into mainstream and handle his business.
A man like Montez- smart, old-school charming, a little cocky but cut from fabric that’s downright southern genteel – would have passed by my radar. See, he demands of me to know my place as a woman.
Montez aka Mr. Fresh
That means, I have had to re-learn that I don’t have to carry the world on my shoulders. There’s an intended order where a partner comes and helps ease the load. I let him lead, he knows when to let me step up and when he better fall back.
Our love is beautiful.
But the first time I saw him I thought he was an inexperienced lil’ church guy who would be crushed by my bruised heart.
But, we worked it out. And now, it’s the strongest love I’ll ever know- or want to know.
Every tear I’ve cried, every wish I’ve sighed has all culminated in this: I’m his woman.
We’re planning the big celebration because we both know we’re finally home!
It’s not always easy, but it’s worth it every time I check myself, watching my tongue because he’s proven that he respects me so I need to respect him even in the heat of arguments. He’s proven that a man can learn a woman and can become excited by fulfilling her needs rather focusing on his. And this isn’t about physical needs, either.
This is about a yearning, a deep-down desire that we found in one another. Pure love.
Ladies, I wish you all well in your journey towards love.
And just know, for every lonely night, it’s a chance to learn you better.
For every potential mate, it’s a learning experience on what works and what doesn’t work for you.
But, most of all, this is encouragement that this journey you’re on isn’t for nothing. Every hurt, longing, passionate scream and empty feeling you’ve ever felt WILL culminate when you look into his face. And you will know when the man staring back at you is yours forever.
Thanks for listening to snippets of my experience.
It’s offered me healing, and I hope it’s offered you a bit of inspiration to continue pushing forward.
So I bid you farewell, but not before I say: when it comes to your dating journey, some will ask what’s love got to do with it?
I answer: Everything!
SNC Question and post of the day: What do you find attractive in a mate? May 6, 2009
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This is a toughy but a goodie. What makes you sit up and take notice. Is it their eyes? Sense of humor? How they look in their jeans?
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