Question of the day: What do you do when you see your ex? June 5, 2009
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Okay so you just broke up or you haven’t seen him for ages but there is something about your ex that envokes a feeling or a reaction. It maybe a pleasant reaction about puppy love or a flash memory of feeling not so sexy.
Now imagine if you saw him buying an engagement ring…for someone else.
Thats today’s question of day. Click and answer away!
When no means no or when a bug-a-boo doesn’t get it. June 1, 2009
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Talking to Gal Pal D is always fun and an education.
I live vicariously through her since, you know, I have no love life. So I just listen to how hers is going.
A week ago, her love life resembled a song that I know. Maybe you’ve heard of it?
Let’s call D’s bug-a-boo BB-J (this is a public blog after all)
Anyway, BB-J uses their mutual friend to send her updates on him. The latest is that he broke up with his girlfriend, the same he cheating with my Girl Pal D with. The drama was intense. I believe a three way phone call was involved.
So my girl D responded to the last communication with a matter-of-fact “So”.
That should have ended the craziness. That should have been enough of a message to BB-J to stop being a … well, you know.
Sigh. But it wasn’t. He called her. Like HE called HER.
They had a one sided conversation with him apologizing profusely for what happened and my Gal Pal D was not having anything to do with it.
“So what did he say?” I asked.
“Just apologizing and asking that I forgive him.”
“What did you say?”
“That I did forgive him because if I hadn’t I wouldn’t be able to move on.”
“So how long was he on the phone with you?”
“Three hours.”
“What? Three hours!”
“I wanted to waste his time like he wasted mine.”
Wow. I never would have thought of that but that’s my girl D for ya.
Bad Boys and Beat Downs… Things Get Nasty on Daisy of Love. May 26, 2009
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By KatyByrd
This week was hilarious!
First Cage decides that he is going to take his frustrations out on poor little Chi Chi. WTF? If you want to demonstrate the length and girth of your manliness I could think of about a million different ways. Picking a fight with a guy who is probably half your size is REALLY not the way to go. Then Big Rig does the sweetest thing and brings Daisy coffee in bed after she had her heart stomped on by that f*tard London last episode. If I recall correctly Big Rig was the guy who got almost naked on stage. Actually he was naked except for his guitar. Big Rig looks promising this week. I mean come on! How sweet was that! I wonder what else he does in the morning for brownie points.
Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm…
THEN Fox gets the MVP award for doing nothing. I so wanted to jump through my TV, grab Fox by his nuts, and shake the stupid out of him. For this award he gets a date with Daisy. Where he starts to ramble complete nonsense about why he and Daisy are perfect for each other. At least I think. All he did was talk to the camera. He did not look at her throughout his whole ramble session. G.R.O.S.S. to the infinite power!
After all of the drama of the photo shoot…just when you think that the guys that lost get a little down time…the impossible/completely stages happens. A skunk finds its way into the house. I actually liked that this happened. It gave us an opportunity to separate the men from the boys. 12 Pack got sprayed in the face and got all freaked out. He and Chi Chi poured tomato sauce on him and then he started to vomit. What a pussy. Actually a few of the guys started to gag and vomit. The smell is horrible. Who, you might ask, finally handled the little critter? That’s right, Big Rig. Step aside boys let that hot little southern man handle the situation.
The winners of the challenge got a date at the local skate park. Flex was the truly outgoing one. I have to give him credit he got onto the largest ramp and just went for it. He had no idea what he was doing but he made it go right! Got to love the can do attitude. Sinister tried to skate a little but was only willing to try so hard. 6 Gauge (named for the 6 gauge Prince Albert piercing he has) refused to get on a board sitting the fact that he was “larger” than the other guys and more mature. Course after the date he pulls out his junk in the limo to show Daisy his piercing. Riiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight. I wonder if it has a bell on it.
Poor Cage, in the end he lets his emotions and insecurities get the best of him. Cage gets hammered and accidently burns Flex with a metal laurel Foxx had worn on his date. Well. See what had happened was Cage smarted off to 6 Gauge and got up to get into a fight. Flex decides to make this an opportunity to get back at Cage for burning him by grabbing him from behind and punching him. This doesn’t sit well with Cage, who already has anger issues, and Cage decides to leave before he hurts anyone. Smart choice and one we all knew was going to have to happen. Guys leaving before they get eliminated are a disturbing trend though.
On the brighter side, next week involves a boxing ring. Evidently Chi Chi and Sinister go at it and Sinister gets whooped! JUICY! I don’t think that their friendship will last very long. Till next week!!
XOXO
Katy Byrd
Boys Make the Best Toys…Adventures in Dating on Daisy of Love May 18, 2009
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By Katy Byrd
This week’s episode gave us really good examples of some very interesting dating situations. The guys (split into teams of three) were put to the creative test by Daisy to see who could turn nursery rhymes into an awesome rock song. There were some hits, misses, and surprises. The winners earned a date with Daisy and the losers were sent to get a “rock star” makeover. Hijinks ensued and it made for great reality TV.
The winners were London, Chi Chi, and Cage. On the “date” Daisy decides to take Cage for a little one on one time. Meanwhile, Chi Chi and London are left to fend for themselves along with the brand new Gibson guitars Daisy just gave all three of them. Waah.
The Guy With the Crazy Past:
- Cage turns out to have had a very difficult past including abuse, homelessness, and learning to handle his problems by street fighting. So this
could go either way. My money is on Cage needing some emotional help and reverting to physically hurting people or things when he gets mad. If you are in a situation with a person you are dating and their ability to handle tough situations is to automatically use their fists you need to rethink that situation. The target of their anger might be a wall the first time but you might be next. I hope this goes well. I would love for things to end well for him with a healthy relationship in his life, but I just have a hard time seeing it because he just doesn’t seem to have any kind of an example to go off of. I really wish I could give him an ass out friend hug. The Guy Who Is Hiding Something:
London has spent this time brooding because of the lack of response he got from Daisy when he just casually said (on national TV) that he has nowhere to live cause his dad kicked him out and came to the show “for her” and has nothing to go back to. If it walks like a looser, talks like a looser, and squawks like a looser, you guessed it. London is a Looooooser. He now feels that they are “not making a connection” because things have gone flat. Kids let me let you in on a little secret. Maybe you know it already. When people have done things in their life that are bad, shady, or not positive towards others, they tend to get all defensive. Sometimes even to an extreme. The really stupid ones start to find someone to blame. It will usually come out of nowhere but is YOUR fault. WHAT the F ever. Basically you unknowingly stepped on the bad thing they have done and to not get caught (you know like on national TV) they create this situation where you are to blame. No Thanks. I had an Irish Catholic Grandmother. I have had enough for one lifetime. The Guy Who Tries Too Hard and Then Won’t Let Go.
- Chi Chi… Chi Chi… Chi Chi… Poor little monkey. Chi Chi and his friend Sinister (who really isn’t) signed up for this contest together. Now that things are getting closer to the end the ever potent stench of jealousy is in the air and their friendship is not doing so well. Unfortunately Chi Chi is like that really cute very active puppy in heat who just wants to make sweet love to your leg. I just don’t think he would let go. He tries so hard but he needs to go. He isn’t cute enough to be that stupid. Someone get him a chew toy and take him to the vet. We may have to find him a new home.
Oh if I had my way this contest would be between 12 Pack for his juicy muscles, Cage for his ability to overcome with the skills he has, and Flex for being the whole package. I guess macho men make me want to jam out with my clam out. I can’t wait till next week! Please let me know your thoughts. I would luuuuv to hear them.
XOXO
Katy Byrd
He Loves Me…He Loves Me Not… Learning to Survive the Singles Scene from Daisy of Love May 11, 2009
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Editor’s Note: This is the first day of a regular column, Love Watch with Katy Byrd. Katy, a reality TV fan will blog about Daisy of Love and give her keen insights about Daisy and her boys. Look for her weekly column here every Monday afternoon.
By Katy Byrd
One of my earliest memories of my father was him telling me that we lived in a man’s world and I needed to get used to it. I distinctly remember laughing in his face. I don’t remember how old I was but I do know that I wasn’t even in school yet. I have always been this way.
Being single is similar to walking across a mine field. It’s scary out there. If you don’t have good friends to help you steer through the crazies, weirdoes, perverts, and freaks, and to support you in your stumbles, then you could get seriously hurt. What I needed was some kind of gaydar for guys, or guydar. After all we are the women. We are the prize. We do not chase or pay for the date. We are meant to be worshipped and treated as such. Those guys do exist and if you can’t find many of them it’s because we have let the men get away with treating us that way.
This brings me to the purpose of this blog. The only way to really learn in life is to do, or watch someone else make an ass out of themselves and learn from their mistakes. Daisy of Love, for those of you who don’t know, is about Daisy De La Hoya who we have seen on Rock of Love when she was competing for the “heart” of Brett Michaels forever and ever the end. Needless to say she was not chosen and the VH1 gods have blessed her with her own reality show. Daisy is now working on a career in music and modeling… blah…blah… blah. We can however watch Daisy and all of these guys on the show make complete and absolute fools of themselves and learn something from the process.
From my experience the best way to start eliminating potential drama and/or bad decisions is to know what you are dealing with in the amount of time it would take you to finish the evening’s first drink.
In watching the show I kept getting these flashes of bad mistakes or red flags I had seen while dating and there they were on the show! I guess it doesn’t matter how fake your boobs are or how much they paid you to do this on TV, we all have the same issues. So here are a few from Sunday’s show I noticed:
- The Guy Who Lies About His Ex.
WHOA BABY! “Brooklyn” got busted! He told Daisy he was single and guess what? His girlfriend or EX girlfriend is calling the house. Hello drama!
Come on ladies we know this guy. He is the one who tries to pick you up in the bar (or some other tacky place) and is always distracted. He never looks you in the eye and can’t commit to anything but trying to get you drunk and have sex with you. Sorry but yeah that’s all he wants. I don’t care how hot he is, you are just a good opportunity.
So what happens on the show? The same thing that will happen to you if you think you can “change” his mind. Brooklyn realized that everyone knew how shady he was and left the show before he was eliminated. This guy might go home with you but he won’t stay. The best solution to handle a guy like this is to make him commit and take it slow. He won’t last long and you might even get a free dinner out of it instead of just being a booty call.
- The Insecure Guy Who Tries Too Hard and Gets Waaaaay Too Aggressive Really Fast.
Right… so “Big Rig” couldn’t communicate and got all upset cause he was rudely interrupted. He felt like his territory was being invaded. What was his solution? He found Daisy in a crowd of men and grabbed her by the face and kissed her all forceful like.
Now, I like a man who can take charge but there are boundaries. That was not romantic or sexy in any way. This is the kind of guy who stalks. This is the guy who you get into a relationship with and he gets really attached really fast before you even have the chance to like him or make sure that you like him. Then the next thing you know you are in a committed relationship and aren’t allowed to see all of your friends ’cause he dosen’t like them or just wants you all to himself.
This guy will lock you into a conversation the first time you meet him and won’t let you go. Come up with a quick excuse and get out of there before he cries or picks a fight with the really hot guy next to you who is laughing.
- The Guy Who Thinks That His Looks Will Suck You In Like a Tractor Beam. “
“Fox” decided that he didn’t need to try to get Daisy’s attention tonight but instead felt that he was so good looking that she would just be blown away and gravitate toward him.
Riiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight.
Ok so this guy is a little too neat and clean. Look for waxed eyebrows and a manicure. You might even find a mirror nearby. I doubt that he can even go long periods of time without grooming himself. He expects you to come to him. It’s not worth your time. You can use this guy’s ego to buy you and ALL of your girlfriends’ shots that night but lose him and go find someone who will be good in bed. This cocky jerk might make sure you have an orgasm the first time (maybe) but any time after that (if he actually calls you again) will be all about him and you better hope you go first.
- Mister Mixed Signals.
“Tool Box” Was all aggressive and sexy with Daisy on the show, but after she was gone and he got drunk he decided to share with the other guys. Toolbox didn’t have very nice things to say. We have all met this guy. He makes it sound like he really likes us and wants a future. This is where the saying “actions speak louder than words” comes in. If you are meeting men and it seems too good to be true it just might be. Don’t rush anything. Don’t take anyone too seriously the first time you meet them. Keep it light. If he just bought you yet another drink or pushes things too fast take a break. Be very honest with him about what you want in life and don’t play games. Make him step up to the plate and do the work.
The elimination this week was Cable Guy (mr. non aggressive) and Toolbox (yaaaaay) with the ugly Mohawk.
That’s it for now ladies! I would love to know if you have any comments or questions. Juat remember ladies…
Stay Strong and keep your integrity. You never have to walk home in the morning in shame if you integrity is still intact..
XOXO Katybyrd
